I’m not good enough.
It’s what I tell myself sometimes. Okay I’ll be honest, it’s what I tell myself a lot. I don’t say it aloud, but it doesn’t matter because it’s loud enough for me.
When I’m frustrated, when I’m down, when things aren’t going my way and especially when I’m facing any kind of adversity that little voice chimes in and says “it’s because you’re not good enough.”
Do you have one of those voices in your head? Are you doubting your talents, your strength, your ability to do what needs to be done?
Maybe it seems like this voice has been there so long it’s like a good friend. It’s your guide for things you can and can’t do. You can’t skate-check! You don’t like lobster-check! You don’t like to make small talk-check! You aren’t good at making small talk-check! You aren’t smart enough to make small talk-check!
STOP! Do you see what just happened there? It started so innocently, but it snowballed into something bigger, MUCH bigger– a twist of the truth. Somehow you’ve convinced yourself this twist is true. In no time at all, your lack of skills in certain areas have turned into that phrase: “You are not good enough.” Does your mind snowball like this? Does it jump to conclusions that may not be true, but somehow they appear to be true? What does your snowball look like? Does your snowball weigh you down? Does it make you feel like your NOT ENOUGH?
Not pretty enough
Not smart enough
Not stylish enough
Not strong enough
Not talented enough
Isn’t it amazing how quickly you can go from not liking something to not being good enough?
At what point will you be ‘good enough’? What does ‘good enough’ even look like? ‘Good enough’ means WHAT exactly? ‘Good enough’ for whom? How do you get out of this snowball way of thinking?
You need to a place to start slowing down the snowball and eventually stop it altogether. Here are a few things that have helped me to stop that inner voice that tells me I’m Not Good Enough:
STOP COMPARING. I know this is in the camp of the-easier-said-than-done, but you have to start somewhere, right? I know a lot of times I’m not feeling good enough because I see someone else has a trait or a talent I really wish I had. While it’s great to appreciate other people’s talents, we need to remind ourselves that we have our own God-given talents. Next time you are mentally comparing yourself to someone else tell yourself STOP then take a moment and list two of your own God-given talents. Train your thoughts to focus on what you CAN be or do not on what you can’t. Training your thoughts to focus on the positive can take time, especially if that inner voice has been going at it for a long time. Be patient, but diligent.
BE PRESENT. It’s easy to be led to believe by social media that every modern woman is stylishly dressed, well-versed in current events, raising multiple children and carting them to all their activities while making homemade meals, holding down her own career and supporting her husband in his. Right.
Sounds silly when you write it out like that, doesn’t it? If you’re anything like me than you have been on social media and wished you were ‘good enough’ at home décor so your home would be warm, inviting and picturesque. Maybe you wished you would know exactly what to wear every day to look stylish and put-together. Social media can make us want to BE EVERYTHING, but we aren’t. SO we begin to tell ourselves we aren’t good enough.
What matters the most to you—in this moment? Can you pause for just a second and reflect on that? Silence those voices from social media, magazines, tv shows and BE PRESENT. What do you want? What do you care about the most in this world?
Do you feel that peace? That quietness of connecting with your inner self? The self that isn’t listening or looking at others, but quietly knows what really matters in this world. What did you find?
YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD.
You know how much you love your children? They drive you crazy some days, but you would give your life for them? God loves us like that. He gave his Son for you. Jesus DIED for you so your sins can be forgiven. That’s how much God loves you! So what would it be like if those voices in your head were from God’s point of view? What would that sound like? What would God say about you?
You are beautiful
You are smart
You are strong
You are talented
You can do this!
Isn’t it time you started talking to yourself as God would talk to you?
It’s amazing how sneaky that voice can be. It just zipped through my head telling me I’m not ‘good enough’ at summarizing my post. STOP! God has blessed me with a brain, an education and if I put my mind to it, I can do this! And THAT’S how you put it into practice folks! lol!
When you hear that voice in your head telling you ‘you’re not good enough’, tell it to STOP! Focus on what you CAN do, be present in the moment and silence outside voices. Then ask yourself: “What would my Heavenly Father say?”
YOU ARE ENOUGH
I would love to hear what God is telling you today! Share in the comments and let’s encourage one another to be present, to be ENOUGH!